Adventures in Dating By Gigi Flores and Helen Obispo

Gigi has barely had time to work, let alone date and upkeep the blog. But now it is summer, a teacher’s best friends, so she will be back here posting advice and tips, and getting feed back from her friends on face book and through texts. Hope this has been missed… Gigi has really missed it!!

So for our first dating question in a while, Gigi used one she has been asking herself ever since she went back on dating sites to meet someone: Why do people on dating sites lie about their looks, weight and height? And what should you do if you are expecting a person of average size and height, and the person who shows up is shorter than you and three times your size? Do they not realize that this is one lie that will be obvious from the get go?
Dating Advice #40: “What to do when your online date lies” – continue reading…

Gigi and Helen have done a lot of online dating… A LOT!! All in all, they have been very lucky. They have never had any serious danger from the men they have met. They might call some of the dates nightmare dates, but they were able to safely leave, and laugh about them after… If you are new to online dating, here is some practical advice to follow. Dating Advice #39: Advice you’d give to people doing online dating – continue reading…

What do you do if you begin to date someone right before a major holiday of present giving or a birthday? Do you give them something? If so, what? Big? Small? What if you get him something and he doesn’t get you anything?!! How terrible would that be? Last time Gigi dated someone at Christmas time, it had already been a few months together, and we did exchange Christmas presents. This time Gigi has just begun to date him… hmmmm, we haven’t given him a name yet. Let’s call him Jonathan. Dating Advice #38: What to get them for Christmas – continue reading…

Gigi’s first stories were about her confusion about men… and the biggest part about her confusion is why men, ok people, seem to be afraid to commit to one another, and why so few relationships seem to last these days… unlike in the age of our parents. Dating Advice #37: Why are people afraid of commitment? – continue reading…

Lately someone from Gigi’s past has been texting her on face book and calling her, wanting another chance, years after they were together. The problem? She gave him two chances last time they were together, and both times he lied and cheated, and hurt her. There is no way in hell that she will ever trust him again, no matter what he says, and how he seems to regret having hurt her and lost her. Dating Advice #36: Can people change, and do they deserve another chance years later? – continue reading…

What do they really mean when they tell you that they need space? Is it just the beginning of the end? Are they simply finding an easy way to break up with you and try to avoid the tears and recriminations? Dating Advice #35: What does I need space really mean? – continue reading…

Last week we talked about moving in together… what happens if there are young children involved? Should you move in together then? Does it make a difference in how much time you should wait before moving in together? Dating Advice #34: Moving in together when kids are involved – continue reading…

How long should you wait before moving in with someone? This is a serious move in a relationship, one showing commitment to one another. Is there a time that is too soon to move in together? Should one wait a certain amount of time? Of course, all relationships are different and there is not set formula for anything. Here is what our readers thought. Dating Advice #33: When to move in together – continue reading…

One of you wants kids… the other does not. Do you stay in the relationship hoping that the other one will change their mind? This is such a tough thing to decide on, because what if you really love the other person? Are you ready to give them up? You have to decide if you want him or her more than you want children. You might hope that, in time, that person might change their mind and decide they do want kids after all. Maybe with time, your partner will want a child… and if you leave him or her, what then? Dating Advice #32: When you are the only one who wants kids. – continue reading…

Waiting for your man to propose can be so frustrating… You wonder if he wants to, if he ever will, how long it will take, and sometimes, as the years go by, you wonder if he ever will. Dating Advice #31: Waiting for a proposal – continue reading…