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Guest Writer #135: “Turducken”

  • November 14, 2011 at 8:04 pm

I have far more dating/relationship mishaps to share than I do success stories…those mishaps make for great lessons. In the time that I’ve been writing this dating blog, it’s helped me to learn a lot about myself and the role I play in my own dating drama. Yes, I actually do think that I am partially at fault… One thing I’ve come to notice about myself in general is that I am an avoider, meaning that I avoid things in hopes that they’ll go away. I ignore my toothache because I can’t afford the co-pay or I have too many upcoming engagements to be holed up in the house gone off Vicodin and Tylenol-3. I ignore that bump in the night because it actually might BE something. I ignore my feelings, hoping they fade before they get hurt…they usually don’t and I usually DO. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #135: “Turducken”’

Guest Writer #130: “Avoiding the “Bad Guys”’

  • November 7, 2011 at 8:44 pm

I recently asked the good folks on my facebook fan page what my next topic for the dating blog should be, and one young lady suggested I write about the signs of a bad man from the survivor’s perspective. I thought this was a FABULOUS idea except for one thing-I don’t believe in “bad guys” for myself anymore. When the light broke through the darkness after my break-up with the infamous ex, I realized that there were a lot of things I ignored about both him and myself that could have saved me a lot of time and trouble. That’s when I decided that there ARE no bad guys and I am no victim of bad relationships…but we CAN talk about how to make better choices and what to know before we make ANY choices. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #130: “Avoiding the “Bad Guys”’’

Guest Writer #126: “Dream Team”

  • November 2, 2011 at 9:01 pm

I think I’m part of a Dream Team…

I’m pretty sure we’ve discussed the concept before, but let’s go back and recall what this is. A Dream Team is the people you date and/or have in your life who separately embody different qualities that add to your Dream Man. Based on common knowledge, it takes about three men to add up to the Dream Man. When have a group of three, it is generally called “The Trinity.” Once upon a time, I had a Trinity of my own. There was the male friend who I could talk to about ANYTHING…and I do mean ANYTHING. If he wasn’t next to me, I knew where he was, and it was the same for him. Anyone on the outside looking in would think that we were a couple, and we COULD have been-if we were REMOTELY mutually attracted at the same time. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #126: “Dream Team”’

Guest Writer #120: “Broken”

  • October 24, 2011 at 9:45 pm

I attempted to have the first adult conversation about my romantic ideology at age 18-with the infamous ex who was never my man, of course. I thought I would give him fair warning. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #120: “Broken”’

Guest Writer #119: “Cat Lady In Training”

  • October 17, 2011 at 11:27 pm

I’ve been trying as of late to write blogs that are more informational and less slices of my life, but today, folks, I’ll be doing a good ol’ vent! As I stated in “The Make-Up Blog” (, the majority of male attention that I get comes on days when I’m wearing some sweats and a tee and my hair is half done. Well, I had one of those days this past Sunday. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #119: “Cat Lady In Training”’

Guest Writer #116: “Why Do I Want to Get Married?”

  • October 4, 2011 at 10:50 pm

I had this thing all figured out when I was a kid, and I mean a YOUNG kid. I was going to go to high school, meet my sweetheart, date him through college, get good jobs, then we’d get married and have children. That’s what you do, right? That’s the way I saw things happen on television, or at least I pieced together the parts I saw with the parts I wanted. A nine-year-old girl doesn’t quite have a reason for getting married, yet. It’s just a progression of life at that point. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #116: “Why Do I Want to Get Married?”’

Guest Writer #111: “Somebody’s Watching Me…”

  • September 30, 2011 at 12:05 am

As has been consistent through most of my life, I have quite a few male friends. Actually, I have far more male friends than I do female friends, and stronger, more loving and trusting friendships to boot. Most of these wonderful male friends of mine also happen to have girlfriends, wives, long-term cutty buddies, basically, some woman who lays claim to them romantically. I fully support my boys in their relationships with their women, especially if they’ve chosen well. However, in many situations, I find myself under the watchful eye of said women, and to be honest, it irritates the bejeevus out of me. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #111: “Somebody’s Watching Me…”’

Guest Writer #110: “What about what YOU need?”

  • September 20, 2011 at 10:09 pm

I tend to attract unavailable, undesirable, off-limits type men. This probably sounds like the vast majority of women because, let’s face it-these types of men are usually hitting on some of EVERYBODY just waiting for someone to say yes…especially the unavailable and undesirable. What do I mean by off-limits though? Well, I tend to have men who are already in relationships and not challenged enough by one woman or men who are fresh out of relationships with women I know personally, be it in passing or as part of a true friendship who try to make me the next girl. Now, clearly, I’m not going to date someone else’s man, but let’s talk about that second part-the man who has broken up with someone I know personally. Continue reading ‘Guest Writer #110: “What about what YOU need?”’

Guest Writer #109: “Mr. Big”

  • September 6, 2011 at 9:43 pm

When I first started my venture into blogging many years ago, I was going through so much mess with men that I dubbed myself, “Carrie Blackshaw.” For those who don’t know, this is a play on the character Carrie Bradshaw from hit TV series, “Sex in the City.” Like Carrie, I was a writer. Like Carrie, I was single. Like Carrie, I had some interesting situations with men. Like Carrie, I had a Mr. Big…
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Guest Writer #108: “Friends with Benefits vs. Booty Call”

  • August 26, 2011 at 5:49 pm

Hello Blog Enthusiasts!

Last week was my birthday, and I celebrated like the Leo Goddess I am-I took the whole week off. I thought I was ahead of myself and had sent the fabulous Gigi enough to post one for me in my absence-I was wrong. Even a Leo Goddess isn’t arrogant enough to simply bail on responsibility for her own sake, so I apologize.
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