Guest Writer #132: “30 DATING RULES TO REMEMBER” By Giovanni Casanova

Here is another great article written by a man for men, from his fascinating website So suave. Gigi loves these insights, and is glad she subscribed to this website, and loves getting all these male tidbits… So should you!!

Now, just to give you my insight on these rules for men:
Rule number 6 infuriates me… why should anyone wait to call someone they like?? what if while you wait they get a call from someone who does not play these games, and you lose her/him?

I also do not agree with rule 7. There is nothing quite as fun as texts and phone calls to get to know the person before you meet them in person. It can give you a lot of insight on them before you meet, and sometimes can warn you NOT to meet them!!

LOVE love love rules 13 and 15, and it is what Gigi swear by now… There are many men out there, and you do not need to put up with anything you don’t want to put up with!!

Rule 17 is just not fair. I think men should be the first to say I love you, because if we say it first, we will never know if they said it back just to appease us, or if they really meant it.

Right on with rule 19… do not put up with any kind of cheating!! See rules 13 and 15!!

and OMG/WTF on rule 25: In Gigi’s world, men are liars, players, cheaters, stalkers, wussies, babies, cowards, thoughtless… and that’s just the good ones, and Gigi does not want to swear and really say what she thinks!!

Rule 26? chicks before dicks… we can do that too… do not take a man from your girl friend. If he leaves her for you, chances are he will leave you for someone else…

Rule 29 just pisses me off… sorry, I went and swore… WHY do people have to play games???!!! Why cannot we just be ourselves, be sweet and considerate, call right away, give all of us, and not have to hold back?

OOOOooo… all in all, these rules got my dander up, and I’d like to have a few words with Mr. Suave and send him the women’s 30 dating rules to remember… and maybe I will!!!

by Giovanni Casanova

The following list has been compiled as the result of insights on the discussion forum as well as my own personal experiences. Now, in life there are sometimes exceptions to rules, but in general these rules should be followed. Also, some of these aren’t “rules” per se, but more like observations or insights. Enjoy…

1) Don’t reveal too much about yourself too soon. Remain a mystery.

2) Girls are not the only thing in life. Have other things in your life that excite you.

3) Do not become so invested in any one girl that you cannot simply walk away.

4) Confidence attracts women even more than good looks. This is why you see fat, ugly, or dumpy guys with hot chicks.

5) Desperation repels women. You will attract more women when you don’t care if you’re attracting women.

6) After getting a girl’s phone number, wait at least two days to call her to avoid appearing desperate.

7) Use the phone only to set up dates. Not to talk about weather, current events, how her day went, etc. Save that conversation for the date.

8) If you call a girl and get an answering machine, don’t leave a message. Just try again another time. Girls, as a general rule, do not return phone calls.

9) First dates should be short and creative. NO “dinner and a movie”. Things involving some activity are best: pool, bowling, roller blading, mini-golf, dancing, etc. Keep it FUN.

10) Do not give gifts early in the relationship. Doing so makes it appear as though you are attempting to purchase affection.

11) Girls will test guys to see how much they can skate by with. Do not be tempted to give in. Speak your opinions, stand by your convictions, and don’t put up with excessive amounts of BS.

12) A person can only take advantage of you as much as you let them.

13) There is no such thing as a “soulmate” or “the one”. It doesn’t exist. There are millions of girls out there, though, and many of them have the traits you are looking for.

14) Don’t put any woman up on a pedestal. You risk not being able to reach her. Women are people too… or so I’m told.

15) If a woman disrespects you or your time, particularly early in the relationship, don’t hesitate to get rid of her. NEXT!

16) No relationship is a committed one until both people agree that it is. Until then, anything is fair game for both parties involved.

17) Never be the one that says, “I love you” first.

18) The challenge is part of the fun. Don’t short-change the girl. Let her pursue you. The harder something is to obtain, the more valuable it is perceived to be.

19) If a girl cheats on you, she is gone. No exceptions.

20) Never date a girl who has more problems than you do.

21) Do not date girls from work. Work is stressful enough.

22) Dating is a “numbers game”. Accept the fact that you’re going to get rejected more times than not. Suck it up and get back out there.

23) Getting advice about women from a woman is like asking Osama bin Laden to tell you the locations of all his terrorist camps.

24) Where women are concerned, pay more attention to what they do than what they say.

25) Realize that women are tricky, lying, manipulative, devious, scheming, sneaky, cunning, calculating, shrewd, and Machiavellian creatures. Love them anyway.

26) Bros before hoes. Any girl that can be stolen from your best friend isn’t worth stealing from your best friend.

27) Stay away from your ex. Chances are that you won’t be able to get back with her. Chances are also good that if you DO succeed in getting back with your ex, you’ll wish that you hadn’t.

28) Women communicate in two modes: the way things are, and the way they WISH things were. Whenever in doubt, assume it’s the latter choice.

29) Women desire attention the same way that guys desire sex. Give attention sparingly. This is your currency.

30) If you aren’t sure about when to bend or break a rule, go with your instinct. If it’s wrong, that’s a good lesson for next time… and there’s always a next time.

Thanks to Giovanni Casanova for contributing his list of dating rules.

Allen Thompson


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