Dating Article #45: “DOES SHE LIKE YOU?”

Gigi found a great website,So Suave written by a man, with articles for men dating… and it is quite interesting to read things from a male perspective.

How can you tell if a woman likes you or not?

There are tons of little signs that women often give off that can help you to judge how well you’re doing. I’m not going to try to list them all in this article but the following are five of the most obvious and telling. Keep these in mind when you’re attempting to charm that beauty.

1) How’s the Eye Contact?

If she likes you she’ll engage in elevated levels of direct eye contact when talking with you.

She’ll look more directly into your eyes and hold it a little longer than normal. A great deal of eye contact with you usually signals that she’s more interested in YOU than in the topic you’re discussing.

On the other hand, if she’s avoiding your eyes, then you’re probably not oozing too much charm. Better get your act together, or get going someplace else.

2) Where Are Her Shoulders Pointing?

Think of her shoulders as a pointer. She “points” them at what she’s interested in.

If you’re talking to her and her shoulders are pointed directly at you then she’s probably somewhat attracted to you. If they’re pointed in a different direction, she’s probably not (at the moment).

But watch them. She may change their focus and begin moving in your direction, if you’re doing things right. Or point them someplace else, if you’re screwing up.

3) Is She Laughing?

Does she laugh at your jokes and witty remarks?

If she is attracted to you, she will laugh at anything you say that is even mildly amusing. In fact she may laugh so much that you begin thinking that you must be pretty darn funny. (Why hasn’t anyone told you this before?)

In actuality, this has more to do with your presence eliciting a positive state of emotional arousal in her than in your wild sense of humor.

On the other hand, if even your best and most awesome witticisms draw blank or bored stares, then you might want to get movin’ along.

4) Does She Seem Nervous?

Boys and girls are not that different. Girls get nervous around boys just like boys get nervous around girls. If they’re attracted.

So if you notice her fidgeting, making jerky movements, and stumbling over her words a bit, then, hey, you might actually be doing something right. Congratulations!

Of course, she could just be nervous because you seem like a creep. But I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt here. (Try not to be a creep!)

5) Is She Trying?

Is she doing her part to keep the conversation going, or is she just kind of sitting there, mumbling once in a while?

Does she approach you, position herself near you, make things easy for you? Or does everything just seem like work?

If she likes you she’s going to want to talk to you, to be near you, to do things with you. And she’s going to give you every opportunity to show that you are as awesome as she thinks you might be.

But just remember this: it’s not over until you move on. You still have a chance. And some women take a while to get warmed up to a new guy, no matter how wonderful he is. So don’t give up too soon.

But don’t pursue the same uninterested woman for months or years either. Give it your best shot and then, either reap the rewards, or move on. Don’t get stuck in the same spot. Life is too short and there are way too many cool girls in this world.

Allen Thompson
djnewslet@sosuave.com
http://www.sosuave.com

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