Guest Writer #75: “Seasons, Reasons, Lifetimes”

I long ago came to the realization that I simply have a lack of patience. I’m the type of person who will fill a shopping cart, stand at the end of a long line until I’m hot and my feet hurt, then push said cart into a corner and walk out of the store with nothing. I can’t watch commercials on TV anymore. During commercial breaks, I play with my cell phone and likely end up forgetting what I was watching in the first place. Similarly, I have a hard time waiting in Love. I’ll wait forever for the guy I want if I know he’s coming, but how do I know if THIS one is actually COMING?

Somebody quotable once said, “People are in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” This has been my mantra as of late. I looked at a man I love very deeply and thought to myself that as deep as my love goes, I know that one day we aren’t going to know each other anymore…then I almost started the mourning right then. I’ve arrived at a point in my life where I know how easily I can become attached, and once attached, I may not necessarily want what’s RIGHT-I just want what I want. I’m getting up in age and don’t have time to be saddled in seasons. If you are here for a reason, get to it, so I can find my lifetime!

For example, I had a young man walk into my office at work and casually introduce himself to me. “Hi! I’m new in the building and just wanted to introduce myself. I’ll be stopping by to say hi about once a week, to see what’s up with you.” True to his word, he HAS stopped by once a week to say hi…and to talk to me about his ex-girlfriend. So now I’m looking at him like, “yeah…brotha must be a REASON, so what IS it?” Who just introduces themselves to you just to talk to you about their issues with the preferred sex? Okay, so I DO have one of those trusting, loving, “tell me all your business and I won’t judge you” faces, but COME ON!!! Maybe he’s just a season…

In any case, I’m busy inspecting all my relationships, trying to sort them into seasons, reasons, and lifetimes. I know that this could be detrimental because only the Creator/Universe/epithet of your choice truly knows why or how long someone is supposed to be in your life, and I’m ready to kick some folks out in order to make way for someone else-or to avoid being hurt…

When it’s all said and done, seasons are gonna change for their own reasons, and I’ve got a lifetime of it left…so let’s go…

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