Should one admit to their partner if they’ve had an indiscretion? Most people who answered this thought it would be a mistake to tell them, that it would only hurt them.
From Gigi: If you are with someone whom you care about and want to stay with, then telling them about your being faithful would only hurt them or end up with them breaking up with you. However, if you are constantly being unfaithful, then that is a sign that you are not happy with the person that you are with, and you should move on. If it was only a one-time thing that meant nothing, then try to commit yourself more fully to your partner, and don’t let it happen again.
From Josie: Never…
From Ashanna: NO!! What they don’t know won’t hurt them.
From Joanna: Only if you are so selfish that clearing your guilt at the expense of your partners pain is worth it.
From Ana: Deny till u die………… never!
From Boris: Duh, no. never intentionally hurt someone. and by one time thing surely you mean one woman or man, not just “one time” right? coz just doing it once is wrong, especially if you may have to pay up some day oh, and sorry for calling you Shirley.
From Brie: This is the time and place for a “don’t ask..don’t tell” policy!
From Mike: Tell them if you want to
From Brie: Although I think “don’t ask..don’t tell” is the best policy.. I would probably want to know if my partner did that so I could make a fully informed decision about the future of the relationship.
From Joanna: Me too Brie
From Winnie: No. I’d live with my guilt and eventually get over it. men are generally unfaithful, perhaps of no fault of their own ( ha ha ) so it is highly likely that my partner has done the same and he can live with his guilt, if he has any, too.
From Brie: You’re so cynical Winnie
From Winnie: Hahaha realistic
From Brie: Haha! “help me.. I’m dying….”
From Winnie: Hahahahhahahhahahaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahhahahahahh
From Boris: Agreed, Brie. We agreed a long time ago that the other should always reply no to such a questions, truth or lie. Since the answer will always be no, there’s no need to ask.
From Jackson: Oh it meant something alright. It meant you’re a naughty lil cheater… And you want to confess now, eh because it’s just eating you up and you can’t sleep eh? What’s motivating you to go this act of coming clean? You running for office? I think Joanna’s first response was right on.
From Alejandra: No!
From Ricardo: Only if you want out…
From Hannah: I went through this a few years ago, I know I respect my mate more now for comming clean. There is a level of trust and as a couple you need to know your mates word is the ultimate thing. There is also a level of trust that you need to keep open in a relationship.
It always isn’t easy but if you have a good relationship you will get through it.
There you have it… some great advice here.