So you slept with him… NOW what? !! Why is it so difficult at times, that time after you’ve been intimate with someone? (no matter how long you have been dating). At times it seems as though the minute you have sex, things get complicated, and you begin to worry if you’ll ever hear from him again.
This is the area Gigi hates the most about relationships. Of course, she invariably gets intimate too quickly, and most of the times doesn’t get another date. Gigi is always honest about her faults, but darn it, when the chemistry is sizzling, she just has a hard time saying no, or making herself wait.
It can be so hard waiting for him to communicate with you after that first time sex, and when he does, it can be like instant relief. And then you hope that it’ll happen again. Gigi is trying hard now to wait until they’ve dated for a while. She hasn’t had much luck with that… at least not this week.
Here are some opinions on what to do after the first time you have sex:
From Gigi: I almost always text when I leave them (unless it sucked!!) Many times they ask me to text when I get home, which is very sweet and considerate and gives me a chance to tell them it was a wonderful experience. I know I probably text too much, but I’m getting better at just sending one or two the next day.
This week all has gone well. The man she did have sex with (a soon to be amazing chapter) asked her to text him when she got home, and they texted for a while after that. She has heard from him every day this week, which gives her hope that he wants more. Their second date has been set and he has told her he misses her…
From Helen: Slap your foreheadand say…Oh shit! Proceed with many rosaries asking for forgiveness… hahahahah
From Le’Ro: (to Gigi) Just be you. Don’t take any less than him being good to you
No worries. You slept with him, but he also slept with you. Men wonder and worry about if she is having a good time? Will she be back? Is she thinking about someone else. Play it cool, no endless texting or calls. See of he/her contacts you after 1 text or phone call. Some of us have as many or more doubts running though our mind.
From Belinda: Do it again!
From Tim: If I like it, then I will marry her! If it’s ok I’ll do her a couple times and call it quits. If I didn’t like it at all once is all I will see her.
From Rachel: Well if they’re good you keep sleeping with them!!!;)
From Damon: It is simple Gigi, get rid of them and move on lol
From Mike: If it was any good, you go for round two. You need to ask harder questions.
From Shari: Ok guys… It sounds like you are only in it for the sex!
If things weren’t “perfect” in round 1, whatever happened to the adventure of learning what pleases the other person??
From Ana: How about waiting till he calls or texts you? then you till him how much you enjoyed being together and look forward to the next time
From Ricardo: Not respect them any more.
From Ivan: ”Go to doctors to get checked out for any diseases. We live in a dangerous world people…..haha” (good idea and a future blog article)
From Ricardo: Oh yeah get checked for stds n run for the hills.
I think the best thing you can do after you’ve had sex with them is be patient. Don’t go nuts with too many texts or phone calls. Don’t rave about it too much. Let them know that night that you enjoyed it and send a good morning text the next day and then wait and see what happens. If they liked you… they’ll be back for more!!