Adventures in Dating By Gigi Flores and Helen Obispo

Gigi tries to be fair at all times. If the guy is nice, but just not her type, then she tries to let him know politely. She acts like a lady (at least most of the times, unless there is a huge chemistry between them!!) when going out on dates with men met on dating websites. So when she was suddenly accused of being a cheap, fat slut who sponges off men for free meals, she was horrified. She sent him an email offering to pay her share, telling him that she thought he was wrong. He had asked her to eat, when she was willing to just meet for drinks, so she thought he should have paid. She checked with all her male friends, and only a few men thought she should have paid her share. All the other men agreed that on a first date, the man should pay. Especially if he was he one who asked, and all she ordered was a hamburger, fries and one beer!!

She met Goliath on a dating website, and he told her he was old fashioned and a gentleman. She told him she was looking for someone who’d court her and treat her with respect, unlike most of the men she has met in the past few years. They even shared horror stories (I guess, Gigi will now be his horror story!! lol). They met for coffee last week, and he bought her a hot chocolate, walked her to her car, and politely asked for a kiss. Gigi accepted, and it was good enough that she agreed to meet him again. He asked her to go with him to a singles party held at a bar. Gigi said they could meet there at 8 or 9, but he asked her to meet him much earlier for dinner, at 6:30, so they could have time together. In Gigi’s mind, that made it a date.

The whole night, he told her how he wished they could have more alone time, and that he couldn’t wait to see her another day, alone, just the two of them. Gigi stayed with him the whole time she was there, and even though the place was full of single people, she didn’t once try to talk to any of the single men there, besides Goliath and his friend Chet. Her friend Kelly joined her there at 9 PM, and they both stayed with Goliath and Chet until 11 PM. At that point they left, Gigi and Kelly only. Gigi immediately sent Goliath a text, thanking him for dinner, and telling him she’d explain later why she left so early (It had been quite an emotional week for Gigi). Now the next day was Valentine’s and Goliath never texted her, not until the next day.

He then told her on yahoo that he just wanted to be friends, and Gigi told him that she felt the same way. But then he said he didn’t like the fact that she had left him with the bill, and that all his friends thought that she should have paid her share. Gigi was so upset with the things he was saying, that she logged off yahoo, deleted and blocked him both on yahoo and face book. Later that night she sent him the email, offering to pay him back and telling him that she did not use men for free meals.

It would have been fine if the discussion had ended here. But Goliath took it to incredibly rude and crude extremes, emailing her nasty email after nasty email, even though Gigi kept her cool, and didn’t insult him… not ONCE. She never once told him that he was one to talk… that he was overweight himself and she never lied to him about her being overweight, and she sent him photos that showed she wasn’t skinny.

Here are all the emails that went back and forth (Gigi left all his spelling and grammar and punctuation mistakes in!!):

First email from Gigi to Goliath:
Please send me your address and I’ll send you what I owe you for one hot chocolate, one hamburger and fries and one beer. Or meet me somewhere and I’ll give it to you this week. I’ve never been so insulted by someone to say I sponge off men for free meals. I’m the most generous person in the world. I buy the food and cook for my man. I rent the movies. I’ve paid for many dinners and movie tickets. I drive to his place. I drive him around if his car breaks down. I drove 14 hours thru a blizzard to see him. I paid for the hotel for us to stay at. I’ve paid to fly to see him in Alberta or paid for him to fly here. I’ve lent money to my boyfriends that I’ve never asked back.
I get not ONE single penny from my ex husband for my sons. Nothing. No child support and no alimony. How dare you say I sponge off men for free meals? I’ve talked to my male friends tonight and they’ve all said that the first coffee and meal should be paid for by the man. Once you are dating, then you can take turns paying. Please do not contact me again except to let me know how to pay you back.

First email from Goliath:
Obviously you feel guilty for the things you do! I simply pointed out to you that if you’re going to just show up for dinner with someone (Gigi never showed up with someone!! Kelly came 3 hours later!!) without the man picking you up, (since when does a man have to pick you up for it to be a date? Many people meet for a date and drive separately!!) and then you spend the night talking to your girlfriend (not true. Gigi was with him more hours than with Kelly… do the math, Goliath) instead of dancing with the man that you take off on and leave your check with. That is RUDE! You need to look in the mirror and see what rude really is!!!! Then you get upset at me for pointing out the obvious! ARE YOU FRICKEN KIDDING????? You showed me your exact TRUE COLORS! I’m just glad that i learned what a user you are before I really got to know you! Don’t bother emailing me again, i want nothing to do with you!

Second email from Gigi:
Whatever. All the men I just asked say if the man asks, the man pays. I do not feel guilty for anything. I was with you exclusively from 6:30-9 until Karie showed up. I told you already why I wasn’t in a dancing mood. You are not the true gentleman you said you were. I’m from an old fashioned time when men courted the woman and treated her with respect. You are of today’s world where chivalry has disappeared. Very good thing YOUR true colors have been revealed.

Second email from Goliath:
OMG, you truly are the biggest loser i’ve ever met, you truly think that showing up at a bar means you get a free ride, you’re just fooling yourself… and why don’t you get off your high horse and take a sniff of reality. You’re no vision of beauty, you’re fat! You use people, and eventually they all see how you truly are, get real! And you’re definitely no lady, you have no class, any classy lady wouldn’t sponge off every guy she meets. I’m glad you showed your true colors right away, save me the time wasted and money! BYE don’t bother with your pathetic responses, YOU ARE LOSER!!!!!

Third email from Gigi:
Do you really think I care what you think of me? I told you I’m not skinny. I don’t pretend to be. I have not once attacked your looks. Funny, but you remind me of the other guy who emailed that I was fat. Insecure men unsure of their own looks attacking women’s looks?
I just had one meal with you that you requested and I then expected you to pay. I never I insulted you or was mean to you. You are the one showing your true colors here. I’m still not going to insult your looks or station in life. I’m the lady here.

Third email from Goliath:
I never asked what you think of me and i dont give a shit what you do, you obviously don’t give a damn about anyone but yourself, you’re selfish, self centered, and immature! You’re definitely no lady! You’re a cheap slut and you think guys should just pay your way! Why do you think they get so mad at you, take a serious look in the mirror and get REAL! OMG, what a loser you are. You can piss off with any more of your comments, I don’t need to hear the ramblings of a TOTAL LOSER!

Fourth email from Gigi:
Again with the anger and insults? I haven’t done that once. And you wonder why you are alone? I’m alone because of men like you. I’m not emailing anymore. You are just one angry man that I do not need to deal with.

Fourth email from Goliath:
OMG, you are so full of yourself, you truly cant admit when you are wrong, how pathetic! Get over yourself and get REAL! You can convince yourself all you want, i dont give a rat’s ass! You’re a sponger and would rather use others than take the blame! you can do whatever you want to make you feel better, you still showed up and ripped me off, that’s the FACTS! dont bother me anymore, i dont want anything to do with a CHEAP SLUT!

Fifth email from Gigi:
I am still not going to lower myself to your level.
Goodbye

Fifth email from Goliath:
You lower yourself! LMFAO, OMG! you are impossible, you are such a cheap slut you are so way below me! Get real and stop playin’ all those guys out there for your stupid blog page, it’s insulting to everyone including yourself! you’re not a great catch, and i’m sure you got tons of guys that have been slandered by your blogs! Face the facts! You gotta tell yourself that your not cheatin them to make you feel better, WHATEVER, i don’t care, tell it to someone that does!
I’m not alone, i got plenty of friends, you just cant leave it alone, you gotta keep sending emails til you get the last word, you can piss of loser, i told you i dont want anything to do with a cheap slut like you, so piss off!

Last email from Gigi:
I’ve told my friends everything and you will see for yourself if you look at the blog.
I don’t lie about anything. I’m also still not insulting you.
I feel sorry for you and all this anger. It doesn’t hurt me a bit what you say or think because I don’t care about you. I thought you were nice but now I see you have so much anger and rage inside you.

Last email from Goliath:
whatever loser, you can blog all you want, you showed up at the bar, it wasnt a date, and you stuck me with your bill, make sure you tell them the facts instead of your lies, see what they say then. dont bother me anymore, i dont want anything to do with you! you’re not worth it
can you read?? leave me the fuck alone, I don’t give a shit about your lies and you can piss off, BYE TROLL!

Can you believe this? All over one hamburger, fries, and one beer. Thank God Gigi found out what kind of man he really is before spending one more minute with him. Read the blog on who pays for the first meal, and you will see that almost everyone agrees with Gigi. The man should pay or at the very least the one who asks the other one out. Now I’m sure that if Gigi had kissed Goliath, and gone home with him, or stuck to his side like glue, and danced every dance with him, then he would never have bitched about paying for the meal.

But like someone said on the blog, paying for the meal does not entitle the man to sex. Gigi stayed by his side and left. She didn’t drink beer after beer after beer, like he did. She danced several dances with him and left when she was tired and sad about her previous week, and the fact that she was at a singles party filled with so many single people in their 50′s and way older, and it was kind of depressing to see that many lonely people.